Are you feeling the call to bring women together in a ‘huddle’? Do you worry that you first need to have everything perfectly figured out? Does the thought of holding space for others leave you feeling overwhelmed?
"All I wanted was to create a space where women could come and slow the f*ck down," explained Tina Bruce, intuitive mentor, co-founder of Soul Wander retreats and author of Big Little Breath. "Because of my own burnout, I knew there’s this desperate need for women to come together and just rest for an hour."
What began as an hour of rest has since evolved into two published books and retreats all over the world, where Tina blends her expertise in yoga, rebirthing, breathwork, and spinal energetics to guide people through their own journey to spiritual healing. "50% of my work is working on myself," Tina shared. "My time and energy is spent actually getting myself congruent - the alignment of head, heart and soul that we really need to walk our talk."
This focus on personal congruence, rather than perfect performance, forms the foundation of how Tina creates meaningful gathering spaces where women can grow together. "Being honest about how I'm showing up...there's been so many times when I just haven't wanted to show up - when I've been tired or in pain or just unsure," she shares. "I remind myself - you're not here to be perfect. This is not why people are wanting to be taught by you."
Instead of pushing through these moments of doubt or trying to maintain a facade of perfection, Tina shared three somatic practices that help her stay grounded while leading meaningful huddles:
“Bee” Breath: Before every gathering, Tina uses the "Bee Breath" - a humming practice that stimulates the vagus nerve and regulates the nervous system. To try this, block your eyes and ears, inhale through the nose, then hum on the exhale like a bee. This simple practice helps you return to yourself when anxiety has you overthinking every detail.
“Get Off My Back” Kriya: This movement practice helps release the self-judgment and criticism that can build up when we're trying to lead others. To try this find a comfortable standing position. Make sure there is nothing in front of you that you might knock over and make fists with both hands.
As you say "Get", punch out with your left fist.
As you say "Off", punch out with your right fist, crossing over the left arm.
As you say "My", pull both fists back towards your chest.
As you say "Back", punch both your fists forward.
Continue repeating these steps until you feel lighter.
The Ho'oponopono Prayer: This traditional Hawaiian prayer helps you move from control to trust when leading your huddle. Place your hand on your heart and repeat:
"I'm sorry"
"Please forgive me"
"Thank you"
"I love you"
Continue this cycle until you feel centred in yourself and ready to hold space for others.
"When we drop our carefully constructed identities at the door - no roles, no ages, no need to prove our worth - real magic happens," Tina explains. "Each person’s transformation unfolds in its own perfect timing when held in acceptance."
For more of Tina's wonderful work, visit her website and grab a copy of Big Little Breath. You can also explore her international Soul Wander retreats here.
Please note: We are mindful that 'girl' and 'woman' are socially constructed ideas of gender that can fall painfully short of defining the fabulous complexity of who we each are. If these words resonate with part of how you have previously or currently identified yourself, we'd love to hear about your lived experiences.
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