The main reason why being a ‘good girl’ is damaging
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Suffer from the ‘good girl’ persona and don’t know how to overcome it? Or perhaps you have an inkling that you’re a people pleaser, but haven’t invested the time in yourself to find out (we hear you). Well, to clear the muddiness let’s set it all out for you – if you’re a good girl, it might go something a little like this:
“No worries!” you reply automatically, adding another commitment to your overflowing life. “Of course, I’m here for you,” tumbles out as you cancel your long-awaited massage for a friend in crisis. “It’s fine!” you assure your partner who forgot your birthday again, while disappointment knots in your chest.
Sound familiar? You’re not alone. Many of us have mastered the art of being “good” – anticipating needs, smoothing tensions, and keeping everyone happy. But lately, you’ve noticed the exhaustion creeping in. The resentment building in your relationships. The nagging feeling that somewhere between being everything to everyone, you’ve lost touch with yourself. That, above all, is the main reason to ditch the ‘good girl’ syndrome.
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Please note: We are mindful that 'girl' and 'woman' are socially constructed ideas of gender that can fall painfully short of defining the fabulous complexity of who we each are. If these words resonate with part of how you have previously or currently identified yourself, we'd love to hear about your lived experiences.
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