One-on-one coaching
Are you worn out and fed up of trying to perform perfectly, protect others, and please everyone?
Your Invitation…
☣️ Are your ‘good girl’ beliefs keeping you stuck?
😰 Are you worn out and fed up trying to perform perfectly, protect others, and please everyone?
🌟 Are you ready to break free and start embodying more of your unique self?
💬 Then our one-on-one coaching calls might be just what you need.
How Does The Coaching Conversation Work
You may be seeking support with:
Understanding what’s keeping you stuck in your ‘good girl’ beliefs at work, in your relationship, or just in life generally.
Experimenting with evidence-based tools to let go of your ‘good girl’ beliefs.
Cultivating more self-compassion so you don’t hustle and strive so hard to perform perfectly.
Building more secure attachment so you and finally accepting that you are worthy of live.
Developing your strengths of self-leadership as you learn how to transform your wounds into wisdom using Internal Family Systems approaches.
Explore how you can use our approach in your own work to support others.
Something else entirely.
Whatever calls you to this conversation is okay. Part of this process is learning to trust ourselves better. We’ll jump on Zoom together for 45 minutes (you are welcome to record the call if you would like). Our first question for you will be, “How can we help?”
During our time together we’ll use our FREE framework to help you:
Feel it - we’ll unpack what your emotions are telling you about why this conversation is important.
Release it - we’ll get our body moving using breathwork, stretches, and anything else that calls to us to release or celebrate those feelings.
Experiment with it - we’ll get curious about what the science suggests and your intuition wants to try next.
Evolve it - we’ll get clear on the learning and growth opportunities can be found as you step forward.
You will leave our conversation having been compassionately heard and supported with resources and tools you can immediately apply.
Sometimes we can do all of this on one call. Other times, we may not get past just Feeling It in 45 minutes together. Rather than forcing the process, we plan tight and hang loose and trust that we will find our way to the conversation you most need to have.
If you want to have more time you are welcome to book a follow-up session.
Your Coach: Dr. Chelle McQuaid
From an early age, I was groomed to be a ‘good girl’. I expected nothing less than perfection when it came to my performance. I believed it was my responsibility to protect people from disappointment, pain, and suffering. I wanted to please everyone so people would only ever say nice things about me.
By the time I was thirty-four years old, I’d collected all the promised ‘good girl’ rewards: a loving family with two growing boys, a big global marketing career, financial security, good friends, a house full of nice things, and a passport full of stamps. And, I barely had the energy to get out of bed. No matter how hard I tried, it was never enough. I was never enough.
I began questioning everything I’d been taught. On whose terms and for whose benefit had I been living my life? I traced my scars of childhood sexual abuse, poverty, homelessness, domestic violence, crippling self-doubt and burnout, finally witnessing how my beliefs were keeping me stuck in these heartaches.
By the time I’d untangled all the story’s threads, I was fifty years old. Now I have a head full of grey hair. My body is starting to ache and sag. I am happily divorced. My children are leaving home. I no longer care about my ‘big’ career. And, I have the freedom and confidence to live life on my terms and for my benefit.
How? After completing a Masters in Applied Positive Psychology and a PhD in behavior change, my research taught me that striving for perfection is a fool’s errand. After more than a decade of teaching and coaching people in workplaces all over the world to thrive, I learned that trying to protect people comes at the cost of genuine connections. And as a self-confessed data nerd the numbers made it clear that pleasing others is pointless when we can’t find peace within ourselves.
Let me share the insights and tools to show you how.
Still have questions?
We always want to make sure we’re delivering value. If you’re not sure if our coaching conversations are right for you, reach out and ask us about any questions or concerns you may have. We’ll do our best to answer them.
Please note: We are mindful that ‘girl’ and ‘woman’ are socially constructed ideas of gender that can fall painfully short of defining the fabulous complexity of who we each are. If these are words that resonate with part of how you have previously or currently identify yourself and you believe this coaching may help we’d love to hear from you.